What can I do? · Dealing with specific concerns · Recognise your limits · If the parent has revealed the mental illness · Information about mental Illness

(Information for: school psychologists, school counselors, guidance officers, pastoral care providers and student welfare coordinators)

See the page for teachers for answers to the following questions:

Can having a parent with a mental illness affect a student's full participation in school?
How can I deal with the student's problems if I'm not sure of the cause?

What can I do if a student or parent reveals information about a parental mental illness?

Listen in a non-judgmental way and value each person's experience.

Assure the student/parent that they are not alone and that many parents - and other community members - have mental health problems at some time in their life.

Ensure confidentiality and respect privacy - for both the student and the parent - except in situations where you hold concerns for the parent, student or other person's safety, when you should alert your School Principal or refer the situation to your local child protection service or the Police if there is a potential threat to others. If unsure of your responsibilities regarding child protection and student confidentiality check with your School Principal or State/Territory child protection service.

Ask the student/parent if they can foresee or are aware of any barriers to the student's school participation as a result of the parental mental illness (Parental mental illness does not automatically mean that the student will have difficulties accessing the curriculum or interacting with peers).

Encourage the student/parent to realise that all families are different and that there's a lot to be celebrated about difference and the unique skills and experiences that students living with illness in their family bring to their school life.

Encourage planning for times when the parent may be unwell - It may be very helpful for families to make a plan regarding ongoing care of the child should the parent become unwell or require hospitalisation. The plan can be shared with their family or other support network, GP, health worker and the school where relevant.

Encourage parents to involve their children in the preparation of the plan and in determining where possible what will happen to them should their parent become unwell and/or require hospitalisation. A plan can help reassure children and young people about things such as where they will be living, who will look after them and their pets, how they'll maintain their regular school routine and who will give them their pocket money. See the 'Supporting Our Family' kit for a downloadable example plan for the child http://www.howstat.com/comic . This site also contains a sample letter that parents may use to inform their child's school about their illness.

A Western Australian version of this package is available from the Office of Mental Health website, Resources section http://www.mental.health.wa.gov.au/one/aboutus_resources.asp

Ask how the student feels about their parent's mental illness and correct any obvious misconceptions. For example, some children blame themselves for their parent's behaviour and it needs to be explained that this is not the case - that their parents' feelings and behaviour may be a symptom of their illness. They may also experience feelings such as anger, resentment, or shame. They may feel guilt from a sense of disloyalty to the parent if they disclose or want to disclose information about the parent's illness. They may have wrongly assumed that they will automatically 'inherit' the illness. (Visit Royal College of Psychiatry Fact Sheet for Teachers No. 17 http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/info/mhgu/index.htm and 'Family Talk' page re common questions children ask (in the 'Whole Family' section) and Young Minds site)

Ask if they would like more information about mental illness (If so, direct them to appropriate literature or websites for their age level).
Access to accurate information about mental illness can help empower children and young people.

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Dealing with specific concerns that students may raise or which you may need to explore further.

Caring responsibilities (e.g. Is the child/young person having to take on more responsibility within their family than others their age because of their parent being unwell? Do they have the responsibility for their parent's medication regime? Do they have responsibility for getting their own meals? If so, are they getting adequate nutrition?)

Recognise and acknowledge the important role they are taking in caring for their parent. Offer emotional support, but do so tactfully as some young people take on caring responsibilities because they feel there really is no one else who can do what they do and/or that they should be the ones to do it.

Consider referring children or young people who are providing care for their parent/s to a young carer support group or for respite from their care-giving role (Phone the Commonwealth Carer Resource Centre for local group details Ph: 1800 242 636).

A compassionate community response may assist in meeting family support needs such as transporting younger children to school when the parent is unwell and this may be able to be accessed through a body such as your Local Government social services or the school governing council.

Safety (e.g. Do they ever feel unsafe/scared because of their parent's illness? For example the child/young person may be scared about something that happens during crisis times in their parent's illness or about some aspects of the alternative care when their parent is hospitalised. If they have felt unsafe/scared in the past - do they have a plan now for what to do if it happens again or to prevent it recurring?)

See the reference to planning above. Reinforce protection planning with the student and ensure they have the telephone numbers of about 5 trusted adults to call in an emergency. Also check that they know about the Kids Help Line Ph: 1800 551800 (encourage them not to hang up on this line if it is busy as it will be answered eventually - many children give up on telephone help-lines after waiting only 45 seconds). Discuss or refer the student on for assistance regarding the development of protective behaviours.

NB CHILD PROTECTION: Check the mandatory child protection requirements in your state if you have concerns about the safety and well-being of any child as a result of the parental mental health problem and/or of any treatment contact your local child protection service.

School attendance/participation (e.g. They miss school or submit late assignments because they are looking after their parent or are tired when their parent has had a 'bad night')

Ask what you can do to assist attendance and participation. Ask the student's permission to inform school staff about the parental situation so that special consideration can be provided for the student for their schoolwork and other related school matters. Local support services may be able to assist the family with domestic chores etc. - contact the Commonwealth Carer Resource Centre 1800 242 636, Commonwealth Carelink Centres 1800 052 222, or your Local Government social services.

Socialisation needs (e.g. Are they involved in any activities outside of school or home? Do they have any friends? If not, why not? How can this be remedied?)

Encourage the use of friends as a support network. You may wish to check if there are places in your state where the student can meet others in a similar situation. Some states run camps and other programmes for primary school children or young people who have parents with a mental illness.

Involvement in bullying or teasing at school because of their parent's mental illness (e.g. Because their parent is perceived as being 'different', because of their inability to take friends home).

Implement your school procedures in this regard. Consider implementing a 'universal' education program about mental illness in your school through the MindMatters programme (www.curriculum.edu.au/mindmatters) or services such as MIE (Mental Illness Education), available in some states (see COPMI resources)

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Recognise your own limits in helping the student and the possible need to refer for help.

If a child or young person has behavioural problems that interfere with their life and don't seem to be improving, seek specialist help. A child/young person may require referral to the local child and adolescent mental health service. They may value the chance to talk about their parent's illness, and their fears, with a professional who is familiar with these things. They may also need help in overcoming their own emotional and behavioural problems. However, suggesting the student be referred to a mental health service when a parent has a mental illness must be done sensitively as it may invoke strong feelings of fear or panic in both parent and child.

Encourage the student or parent to speak to an appropriate support service if other major difficulties are identified. This may be their GP, a local community health centre, mental health or parenting support service.

As the concepts of mental health and family are both highly influenced by culture, consider involvement, liaison with or referral of students to indigenous or multicultural services where relevant (e.g. Aboriginal Education Workers) The Multicultural Mental Health Australia website: http://www.mmha.org.au also contains mental health information in a range of languages.

If you or the parent need information relating to family law go to the Family Relationships Online website provided by the Australian Government at http://www.familyrelationships.gov.au/ or contact the Family Relationships Advice Line on 1800 050 321.